You must go read what Meg's latest words of wisdom. And maybe all 50 (and counting) of the comments.
I mean, yeah, I consider myself a pretty practical bride. We're being smart and sensible about our budget, and making this wedding a really accurate reflection of who we are. Which is great.
The WIC is a tricky little biatch. And I still have moments of anxiety and confusion because of it... I start stressing about what I do and don't need and end up just feeling paralyzed... the "wedding blackouts" that Meg refers to.
I feel pressured to keep up with all those silly little checklists. You know, the ones that just assume you're going to hire a calligrapher, and go to cake tastings, and sit for your bridal portraits. Not that any of those things are bad... it's just, I don't need them.
So. In an effort to keep myself as sane as possible, here is my list of things to which I will "just say no."
letterpress, chiavari chairs, custom-colored linens, favors (see here), amazing fondant-covered cakes, hair and makeup trials (other than the ones I do myself), a seating chart and escort cards, a pre-wedding massage (especially since the almost-husband is so good at giving them, for free), a champagne toast....
There. I'm sure the list could go on. But I already feel a lot better. Very liberated. Aaaaah.
Do you have a list? Spill it, sista!
*I know all my readers are smart, sensible people who won't take this too personally, but, uhh, just don't. Because this is my list. And yours will definitely be different. And if you can have letterpress and champagne, then by all means go for it! But don't go for it just because you feel like that's what you have to do or because it's what's expected. Just had to throw in that little disclaimer. Ya know, just in case.