4.01.2009

What you don't need

You must go read what Meg's latest words of wisdom. And maybe all 50 (and counting) of the comments.

Hooray, sanity!

I mean, yeah, I consider myself a pretty practical bride. We're being smart and sensible about our budget, and making this wedding a really accurate reflection of who we are. Which is great.

BUT.

The WIC is a tricky little biatch. And I still have moments of anxiety and confusion because of it... I start stressing about what I do and don't need and end up just feeling paralyzed... the "wedding blackouts" that Meg refers to.

I feel pressured to keep up with all those silly little checklists. You know, the ones that just assume you're going to hire a calligrapher, and go to cake tastings, and sit for your bridal portraits. Not that any of those things are bad... it's just, I don't need them.

So. In an effort to keep myself as sane as possible, here is my list of things to which I will "just say no."

letterpress, chiavari chairs, custom-colored linens, favors (see here), amazing fondant-covered cakes, hair and makeup trials (other than the ones I do myself), a seating chart and escort cards, a pre-wedding massage (especially since the almost-husband is so good at giving them, for free), a champagne toast....


There. I'm sure the list could go on. But I already feel a lot better. Very liberated. Aaaaah.


Do you have a list? Spill it, sista!




*I know all my readers are smart, sensible people who won't take this too personally, but, uhh, just don't. Because this is my list. And yours will definitely be different. And if you can have letterpress and champagne, then by all means go for it! But don't go for it just because you feel like that's what you have to do or because it's what's expected. Just had to throw in that little disclaimer. Ya know, just in case.

8 comments:

jemmessica said...

love it! I am posting my own now!

jessica lynn said...

we passed on the champagne toast, pre wedding massage, an expensive cake, colored linens, chiavari chairs and letterpress. so glad we saved the money.

Emilia Jane said...

For my sanity's sake I had to make a check list. And, ya know, what all those pesky all-night worry sessions stopped immediatly when I saw that such and such didn't need to be done until November or December. It was very therapeudic. That being said it was MY list, not Martha's list or The Knot's list, MY list with all the things that I want/need and none of the extras that I don't need to worry about. :)

midwestelle said...

Unless 100+ chiavari chairs show up on my doorstep free of charge, I'm not going there. They're beautiful, but not worth it. My one request is: no plastic chairs. Oh, wait, I have another request--no chairs that are so ugly all you can do is cover them in a sheet like ghosts. Those white wooden folding chairs that seem to rent for $2.75/each are perfectly fine, thank you very much! :)

Here's a quiz for you: What did the chairs look like at the last wedding you attended?

Exactly.

Kelley at My Island Wedding said...

I had FUN planning my own wedding, believe it or not, because I didn't go by any stupid checklist.

I made my own also.

And this:

"I feel pressured to keep up with all those silly little checklists. You know, the ones that just assume you're going to hire a calligrapher, and go to cake tastings, and sit for your bridal portraits. Not that any of those things are bad... it's just, I don't need them."

I didn't do any of these 3 things. Make this YOUR wedding and not Emily Posts, or whoever...

love said...

I agree with you. I'm sooo newly engaged and I'm a little clueless still but I'm starting to figure this whole wedding thing out! I'm learning from reading wedding blogs=P I think for me personally, I have to pass on a lot of that stuff too and there isn't anything wrong with it if you can include those things. great blog ;)

Amanda said...

List? I'm less than two months away and never even thought about it. Lists just get lost or ignored. ;)

Megan said...

One of the huge things on my list - I do not need a big, poofy, expensive, designer gown to get married.

I also nominated you for the Great Attitude/Gratitude Award!

http://ouruncomplicatedwedding.blogspot.com/2009/04/hooray.html